I came across this list from Babble.com about pregnancy etiquette. I'm sure I said one of these "don'ts" to a pregnant friend or family member of mine and if I did let me apologize!
I wanted to share this with you all because it is CRAZY the things friends and family but especially STRANGERS feel they can say to you. Consider your words before you open your mouth people!
- Was it planned? What to say instead: “Congratulations, kids are great!”
- Did you take fertility drugs? What to say instead: “Do multiples run in your family?”
- You look like you're ready to pop! What to say instead: “How are you feeling?”
- Hmm, a lot of people are asking how I'm feeling. Does this mean I look ready to pop?!
- Are you sure there aren't twins in there? What to say instead: “Do you know what you are having?”
- Can I touch your belly? What to say instead: “Wow, you look great! What a cute belly!”
- Have you picked a name yet? Instead say: "Are you having fun picking a name?"
- This helps avoid the whole awkward "We're not telling the name to you because you're not important enough"
- Enjoy _____ now because once the baby comes, you can kiss that goodbye. What to say instead: “Parenting is certainly full of ups and downs but it’s worth it!”
- You shouldn't be eating/drinking that. What to say instead: “Boy, does that look delicious!”
- If you aren't close enough to tell me what I should/n't be eating when I'm not pregnant, then don't share your opinions just because I am pregnant.
- I never had morning sickness. What to say instead: “How have you been feeling? Any morning sickness?”
- And THEN you can chime in about you not having it...haha
- I was sick my whole 9 months. What to say instead: “Don’t worry, you will feel better soon enough!”
- I was ripped open from end to end What to say instead: “I had a rough experience, but not all women go through what I did.”
- Seriously hearing horror stories is SO awkward. First because it's so personal and I probably don't know you that well and secondly how is that supposed to help my pregnancy? We have nothing in common except that we've both been pregnant. Why will my experience be like yours?
- Get an epidural! What to say instead: “I decided to get an epidural because…but everyone is different.”
My personal suggestion:
Instead of "Woah! You're getting so big!" Say, with a smile, "You're blooming!"
That was hand down the nicest "compliment" I've received from a stranger during this pregnancy.
p.s. Dear family and friends, you know I love you. And if you did say anything to offend me you know I'd let you know ;) No worries, this post isn't directed at anyone specifically.
Labels: baby, good people, pregnancy